So, you’ve just met a new woman, been on a few dates with her, and you’re excited. There’s just something about this one that feels right to you. You begin to wonder if maybe she’s the one you’ve been waiting for all this time. This is a decision you have to make carefully. You don’t want to jump the gun, but you don’t want to miss out, either.

Far and away, however, the worse decision is to hold back. If you’re too nervous to make your move and end up delaying too long in giving her a gift, you may lose the opportunity all together. Women can tell when you’re not giving them your all, and the smart ones will skedaddle. They just tend to interpret this in an emotional way, as if you’re ‘unavailable’.

The first step in choosing the ultimate gift, however, is just to pay attention to her. Through talking with her and listening to what she has to say, you’re going to be able to get a good idea of what she would love. Maybe it’s a crystal necklace, or maybe it’s a signed copy of ‘The Sun Also Rises’. It’s your job to find out.

The reason you want to pay attention is so you can prepare for the all important first gift. This is a major milestone that can really let this woman know you care about her and want to move forward. While season tickets to the Sox or a tote bag could make one woman go wild, the other may balk with disinterest. Likewise, a first edition ‘Brothers Karamazov’ may rock her world.

And no matter what you do, stay far away from all the usual generic gifts. There will be time later for sweet nothings like bouquets of flowers or a jewelry set; right now, you have to make a real impression. You want to get her a gift that she won’t just like, but that will show you’ve been paying attention to her and care enough to get something perfect.

In addition, you should be aware of the appropriate time to begin giving gifts. Giving an extravagant and well thought out gift on the third date may make it the night of your life, but giving one on the second may have you coming across as just a bit too eager or needy. You can only know this by paying attention to the individual woman.

The main point to consider here is that the woman you are with is unlike any other woman in the entire world. To get her a truly perfect gift, you have to listen to her, open up to her, and truly pay attention. The more you learn about her, the better you’ll be able to sweep her off her feet.

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